HOW TO DEAL WITH BEING GHOSTED.

 

I remember being ghosted by someone who was very close to me. At that time, I didn't even know what "ghosting" was. 

As an overthinker, I racked my brain, I thought and thought and over thought. I believed I'd done something wrong for someone who meant that much to me to just shut me out, without any fight or altercation between us.

At the end of the day, I convinced myself that the person just needed a break, maybe the reason said person wasn't online and numbers weren't going through was because they needed space. 

LMAO! What a joke I made of myself.

I found out from a mutual after some months that they still talked that evening, and there I was, thinking this person wasn't online or something whereas they'd just changed numbers and probably "forgot" to mention it.

Away from all that… what really is ghosting?

Hold it right there😂You thought I'd just start like that without saying hi to my favorite people, you thought wrong.😉

Hi fam, and Happy New Week!✨💃

I hope your weekend went well, mine was a breeze.😩

One minute, I was saying "Thank God it's Friday!", The next I was saying is it Sunday again?(Fun fact: I say that every Sunday😭)

And now, it's Monday…

May has really been fast though, so for that I'm grateful.

My Blog Post today is centered on Ghosting. Over the weekend, memories came and I decided to pen this down, PS how I dealt/am dealing with it. I hope you learn something from this. And please, I look forward to your comments 🙏❤️.

Have a good read!

"Ghosting is a method of ending a personal relationship by stopping any contact with the other party and not providing an explanation." "Ghosting is simply rejection without closure."

The thing is, Ghosting is not just limited to romantic relationships or friendships, neither is ghosting new. It's been happening, and it's a bad thing, ghosting is straight up disrespectful. It's not just not being in someone's life, it's disappearing from their life without any specific explanation, no chance for closure or what not. It leaves one confused, sometimes paranoia sets in. Ghosting is even more harmful, when the people involved are involved emotionally. And being ghosted is worse, if you have self esteem issues or abandonment issues.

Now, How can you not be the ghost?

Always come clean with your feelings, be straight up. Even though you might be tempted to ghost someone to avoid stories that touch, remember that you might hurt their feelings eventually and it's better to come clean instead of ghosting, thinking it'll ease things out. 

Communication is key! 

Always, always communicate. Let the other party know what you want, communicate in a precise and concise manner, do not lead them on if you're tired of whatever is going on. 

Never forget: say something.

How to Deal with being Ghosted.

Ghosting hurts, more because it's like you're completely shut out, no explanations whatsoever, not even a goodbye or a breakup. So if you've been ghosted, know that it most likely isn't your fault, focus on your own health and moving forward, if it's an ex or a relationship, stop going through old posts and memories as it would just hurt you further. Those memories won't bring you the closure you need, both emotionally and mentally.

Know that if someone could take the coward's way out of a relationship or friendship by ghosting you instead of coming clean, they do not deserve you, and it says more about them, the problem doesn't lie with you.

Stay focused on You, your health, and happiness.

And if they do return, be straightforward, express your feelings and let them know you were hurt, if you were. Ask for an explanation. Under no circumstances should you pretend it was okay for them to have done that. 

Voice out, speak up, and stay strong.

Don't forget that I'm always rooting for you.

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I hope you have the best, besttttt week.

Ciao✨

With love, Grace❤️