Lessons life has taught me | Welcome to July!
Happy New Month Fam!❤️
Guys, it's been a minute. And I know, I know, I'm sorry if it feels like I ghosted on y'all, but really, I haven't been gingered at all to make posts of any sort.
Few days after my birthday, I checked the reads my birthday blog post had gotten and I saw 3. I tried not to be down cast. Really, I did. Because in my line of work, I've been disappointed many a time, so I really don't place my happiness, or accomplishments on how many clicks I get on my link, or how many readers I get per post. Most times, I avoid checking it, even though it's really hard to do, I try, because I'm doing it for me first. No matter the readers I get per post, I don't get paid for it. I only keep on doing it because it's what I love, and I didn't start for the money anyhow. But even with that, I can't help the disappointment that comes with seeing three reads, Ikr, but I'm still human.
I remember when I started putting myself out there. First, with my baking in 2020. 95% of my 'friends' didn't believe I made my birthday cake, which was the first time I put myself out there. Lol, till today I don't know what was so unbelievable about the fact that I was already a baker—having learned for a month already before my birthday—before letting anyone know that I was. Someone who was particularly close to me actually came to my house to 'confirm'—in her words, if I was the one baking those beautiful cakes I posted. When she came, and she checked everywhere for the confirmation—which I'm still trying to understand till today— she said it was definitely my sister and not me. Up till that point, I'd tried to hold off on my anger. The type of person I am makes excuses for people before judging. But what excuse is there to make for a friend who blatantly refused to believe I could do what I was doing?
I wondered what it was that was so unbelievable about the fact that I was a professional already. Why couldn't she believe, even to the point of concluding it had to be my sister—who makes hair, not cakes—that made those cakes.
Looking back now, I can say that I wish someone had groomed me back then. I wish someone had prepped me. I wish someone had hammered on the fact that it was actually very cold outside, and it's a you're-on-your-own world out there. I wish someone had told me. Because when I started, the disappointments were massive, lol. The first three orders I got were from my 'close friends'(let me quickly divert. Most of those incidents actually made me grow. You'd notice that for almost everyone I mentioned, I used the term 'close friends'. That's because I considered almost everyone around me that way. Now that I've grown, I swear I don't have up to five friends. And as for 'close friends', lol-thats all I can say. Back to it—)
I got these orders from my supposed close friends and mind you, I used to be(or a little part of me still is) this person that(how should I put it) plans for the future, I guess. When I get a simple enquiry, I've planned how it'd end in my head and more than 90% of the time, it never actually ends that way. But I guess I never learn. So yeah, when they told me about their plans and I sent like 20 out of the million cakes screenshot I had on my phone, we settled on a design and I was already buying stuff, well till what you already know happened, happened.
At this point, I really can't remember their reasons but I know one of them eventually decided that my cake was expensive(i think we agreed on a five thousand naira cake back then,) another just ghosted(which is literally the worst thing to happen to a business owner) and another gave a similar excuse. I was shocked, to say the least. If only I'd known I would see more shege in the eyes of people, LMAO.
Till today, I don't expect much from people. I'm not an entitled person. I'm not that, at all. Infact, it's quite the opposite with me. I don't expect anything from anyone. Nobody owes me anything.(which is one of the things I learned from all these).
Now, please note one thing. I'm not trying to blame anyone for all of these. Truth is, when I started this blog post, I didn't know where it was going to end up, not at all. I just faced the blank screen and started typing what was in my head. I didn't even know that I had all of this stored up there, waiting to be unleashed, lmao.
All I'm saying in essence, to everyone reading this, to the new business owner, to you out there, is that you should never place your accomplishment on what people around you say. To the new start-ups, disappointment is simply inevitable, I'm sorry, but it is what it is. So, when the inevitable comes, please don't stop pushing, don't stop trying. It's not just even that it'll pay off some day, it's already paying off. Just keep on pushing, and never stop believing, never stop dreaming, your efforts are already paying off.
At the same time, know that nobody owes you anything. And even if it's someone you never expected to disappoint you, there's still the possibility of it happening, so don't be surprised. Square your mind that anything can happen at any time. And really, the best will happen to you.
In other news, I published an article on this sneaky bast**d that doesn't know when to stop, imposter syndrome. So my article is on Ways to overcome imposter syndrome and I published this on my medium page yesterday, you can read here: ways to overcome imposter syndrome.
Also, when I wasn't here, I was on Instagram, creating content.😂 Lol, really I was just freeing myself from the shackles of being a lazy writer and engaging in some beautiful writing prompts. You can check my Instagram here and read these mind blowing (let me hype myself plix) short stories— Read my short stories, and follow my IG.
The past few days, I made some of the finest cakes too, check them out(and like and drop comments o) here: Check out my work-of-art cakes
I've kind of been too busy for my podcast, and since the same time I posted last here, that was the same time I dropped my sweeth episodes. Listen to any of the previous episodes of my podcast here though: Listen to my fine voice here, as i tackle important matters
You can also follow my podcast on IG, here: click this link to follow Grace's Corner Podcast.
If you're not following this blog, I don't know why. But I implore you to follow up today, Biko.🙏 Just scroll to the left side and click follow, it's free my dears. Also, it won't hurt to recommend this blog, it's a great one: My blog
This is my medium page, where you get first hand notifications of my jaw-dropping articles. Please, please, please follow up here: follow my medium page
I'm coming back to YouTube soonest, by God's grace. (Let me get a better phone fess) But for now, please subscribe to my YouTube channel: click here to subscribe
Lastly, but in no way the least, I published my first fictional novel, Being Ife, on my birthday, the 13th of June, 2022. It's available on Selar at the moment, click here to get it now, thank you in advance. Buy my book here. You can also refer my book to any book lover that you know. It's really a great read, I can't even explain with words. Or just hmu on WhatsApp today, send me a direct message on WhatsApp here
Before I sign out, happy birthday in advance to the best brother ever. I won't tell you about this part because I know that in every first three reads I get, you'll be among the first two, and of course, not number two. You don't know how much I appreciate, and love you. Thank you so much for everything my boss.❤️
On your day, we turn uppppppp!😂❤️
Guys, that's it for today. Really, I hope it doesn't take another 17 days before I post again, 😩God abeg. But please, and please, do help me click those links, God bless you abundantly.
I hope everything goes in your favor this month. I pray that nothing you do will be in vain. Everything you set your hands on will simply favor you. And at the end of July, your testimonies will be so full, that you'll not even know how to thank God.
I hope you have the best, best of the best in July.
Thank you so much for reading to the end. I can't explain how much this means to me. God bless you!❤️
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