Shutting bodyshamers up effectively.

 Guys, I think it did take another 17 days before I wrote to y'all. I'm sorry,😩😂 again, I'll do better, hopefully. I've just been so busy. (I've been looking for job😩) life tough, fam. So, I've been so busy scouring the internet for job offers since I'm basically jobless atm, and my people don't want to eat cake, apparently. And the people I need to write content for haven't found me. They'll find me this week. Amen somebody!🔥 Thank you.😌❤️

So yeah, back to it. I was on my search, and I saw this video about people talking about what people have said wrong about their bodies, how they deal with it and it kind of woke up some of my own insecurities. Well, especially when I checked the comments section. Omo! People have been through a lot because of Body Shaming. I'd planned to write an article on it(By God's grace, I still would) . I just decided to pen down my thoughts this morning, because I know, I know very well how important body positivity is. I hope you have a good read.

Sometimes I wonder why people attach certain standards to certain things. Recently, I've been thinking about body positivity and I just thought to put this out there.

I feel like our bodies are one of the things that could easily make us feel insecure. And the society–the world generally–doesn't help out. There's like this unspoken, or sometimes spoken standard on how bodies should be. One of my blog posts is on bullying and i talked about how I was bullied because of certain parts of my body. Sometimes, it doesn't even have to do with bullying. People just feel the need to ask why this thing is this way, to give unsolicited advice.

Body positivity can be a struggle sometimes, even when deep down, you know better. I look in the mirror sometimes and I'm like damn! I'm hawtttt(doesn't help that i hype myself a lot) but sometimes i look, and I don't like what i see. I wonder how it would be if I was a certain way. Sometimes, I look in the mirror, and I see, and hear that person that said my forehead is too big, or the one that said where am i getting fat to, or the one that said i look years older than my older siblings so i should start slimming down, or the one that said pictures don't do justice to how big my nose is. And there's the one that's suggesting all the remedies in the world for pimples (that just came to do show because of your period.)

Sometimes, those thoughts come, and they just weigh us down. And sometimes, it's really tough. Because one minute you're hyping your body, and the next you're wondering why it's not a certain type of way. It's totally okay to feel that way. Your feelings are valid.

But, let it end there. Please, your worth should not be based on something that's ephemeral. Your worth should not be based on something that changes every time. And who even gave anybody the right to use a certain body type as the standard? 

The sad truth is, there'll always be people who will have something ugly to say. So if you begin to change your body or berate yourself because of a particular standard, please don't. Because today, slimness might be accepted, it might be fatness, shortness, it can be any body type, and you try to shape your body to that. So what happens tomorrow? What happens when another body type comes up? What would you do then?

Bodies shouldn't be subjected to a certain type of way. That is what I believe. If God wanted everyone to look the same way, he wouldn't have made us the way we are. But we are the way we are because we're beautifully made, and there is beauty in every single person.

And to you that's so quick to point out one thing or the other about how someone looks, why don't you stop already? Why don't you keep your advice to yourself? It's unsolicited anyways. And even if you have to say something, say it with kindness. The flex that you think your brutal honesty is isn't it at all. 

Why do you even need to state what I know, and in a worse way. Don't you think I look at myself everyday? Why would you see me and say "ah, you're short o!" Do you think I don't know I'm short? Or that I'm tall? Or whatever you want to say. Don't you think that  person you want to say it to knows, even more than you how they are. Why the need to mention it again? And sometimes, you'll say lol, hoping they'd end it there. But no! they'll keep on hammering on it, "but you're really short!" Okay I've heard, what should i do?

I think I should speak extensively about it, maybe get like minds to speak and record a podcast episode on this topic, because so many people need to know that body shaming is not it at all. BODY SHAMING IS WRONG. And the earlier we knew that, the better. 

To you that's doubting your self worth because of your body, please stop. I know that no matter how many times you reassure yourself, there'll come days when it'll be hard, and that's totally fine. 

Just know that your self worth is not attached to whatever false standard of body or beauty that the society/the world has set up.

And on days when these thoughts creep in, and make you feel less of yourself, banish those thoughts. Because you're deserving of love. You're deserving of great things. You will never not be deserving of it. So on those days, please remember that you're more than enough. Body standards be damned.

Yup! That's it.🤲

If any part resonated with you, you can share on your social media platforms and tag me. I'd appreciate that.

Now, it's my older brother's birthday today!!💃💃

Happy birthday to the best brother I could have ever wished for. As usual, words fail me. I'm trying to write this piece that'll make you understand how much you really mean to me but I know mere words can't do it. Boss, to know you is to love you. Thank you so much, for everything. Thank you for being you. Thank you for your love and support. Thank you for lighting up every room you walk into. You're so funny, and you make us all laugh. You ease the tension from places where tension is present. Thank you for being comrade boss to Joy and Vic. A million thank yous cannot suffice. But I'm saying them, regardless. A whole blog post sef cannor do. Ikr. God bless you so much for me. In strength, in wisdom, in wealth, in knowledge and in stature. God answers all your prayers speedily. Everything you need is given to you. Have the best year yet!❤️ I love you soooooooooo much boss.🤲❤️

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